Are these your go-to phrases?

You hate to rock the boat or not please people, and you always put other’s needs above your own.

It’s fine because you like to make people happy; and, if you’re making people happy you feel good about yourself. Pleasing people and staying neutral is part of who you are.

But deep down you feel your own needs, wants, and opinions bubbling up. You feel yourself getting angry. But you’re uncomfortable with anger and conflict so instead, all of those frustrations come as tears.

You feel unnecessarily angry or bad about yourself. You want to value your needs above others but you feel guilty for wanting to do so. Besides, what if you did share your needs and others didn’t like them? Then what?

Continuing to give to others, your sense of self is lost in other’s needs.

You rely on others as a reflection of your worth and value. If people are praising you and acknowledging the work you do for them you feel great about yourself. But, if you don’t hear the acknowledgment or if someone in your life is upset you wonder what you have done wrong.

You’re ready to learn to trust yourself and rediscover the person you want to be or the person you lost along the way. You’re ready to face the fears of guilt and anger and embrace the human side of you. It’s time to start getting comfortable with your needs and wants and letting go of that toxic shame that keeps you prisoner in your own life.

I love helping women on this path. You are worth the investment in yourself, and you cannot give away what you do not have to give. This is a journey that supports your overall mission to serve others, but in a way that is compassionate to yourself as well.